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I have nothing to say….

My brain thinks I have nothing to say today. Nothing to share with the world. No words of advice for struggling mothers.

My brain thinks I am a failure today. I am not doing enough, I am not far along enough, my kids don’t know enough, and I’m not enough.

It tells me this over and over again as I go about my day.

I think about folding the laundry, and my brain tells me “why even bother, you never do enough to keep it clean. Just let the kids dig through the laundry mountain again.”

And then I don’t fold the laundry pile.

I think about reading to my kids, and my brain tells me “you haven’t been reading enough to them. You are setting them up for failure. You’ve already failed them.”

And then I don’t even want to read any more.

I think about working on my business, and my brain tells me “you are not getting enough done. You’ll never get where you want to. You missed the boat.”

And then I don’t even want to start writing.

But today I sat down anyways.

I committed to writing my blog every week, and so I wrote what was in my head: “I have nothing to say.”

And as it turns out, that is not true.

I do have something to say:

I am not my thoughts.

I am independent of the sentences that go running through my head every second of every day.

I am Delight.

I am enough.

That thought, I have nothing to say, was a lie.

I have listened to the thoughts in my head for years, believing them, thinking they were true. But now I recognize that they are no more of a reality than the movies I watch or the books I read.

When I watch movies, I often come away analyzing them, thinking about plot failures, character flaws, and twists and turns that were unexpected.

I try to make sense of it all.

My brain will churn away, analyzing the parts that made the movie.

I’ll point out to my husband that something could never have happened in real life.

Once when I did this after a movie, he said “Delight, there were talking animals,….. NONE of it could have happened in real life.” (The detail I was worried about didn’t compare to the major flaw of talking animals.)

Just like a movie where the plot has holes and doesn’t quite make sense, my brain offers me thoughts that have holes and don’t make sense. If I just listen to them, they stop me from living the life I want to live. If I stop to really look at them, they are illogical.

Thought like “I have nothing to say” or “I am not enough” or “I am messing my kids up” hold me back. I get to choose if I believe them. Believing them holds me back. I stay small and scared, afraid to try, failing ahead of time.

Choosing to believe something different is a choice.

I do have a voice.

I do have something to say.

I am enough.

I am exactly what my kids need.

Believing these thoughts gives me great power. I move forward with action when I believe them.

That is the work that I have been doing with my life coach for 3 years now.

I have learned to love myself. I have learned to believe in myself. I have learned how to choose my thoughts with intention and purpose. I have learned to love my kids exactly where they are, not where I think they “should” be.

I have found great peace and satisfaction with my life exactly as it is.

I still have the chaos of homeschooling 6 kids. I still have a laundry mountain much of the time. I still think thoughts that hurt.

But I now recognize that it is all ok. None of it is a problem. It is just my brain on default, noticing perceived faults.

I am free to accept or reject it’s analysis.

It is my choice.

It is true freedom.

So I choose to homeschool. I choose the laundry and dishes and clutter that goes with 6 kids. I choose to parent my kids even when they disappoint me. I choose it all.

I am not a victim to any of it.

The circumstance is still the same, but my joy and happiness has increased, all because of my awareness of my own thoughts.

And that is why I write, when my brain says I have nothing to say.

If I can help just one Mom who thinks she is ruining her kids and is worried that she is not enough, this is for her.

You are enough.

You are exactly who you should be in this moment in time.

Your kids need your failures just as much as they need your talents, successes, and happiness.

Let me repeat:

Your kids need your failures just as much as they need your talents, successes, and happiness.

If you were perfect, imagine how hard life would be for your kids out in the real world where people are NOT perfect and things do NOT go according to plan.

You are the perfect teacher for your children - imperfections, mistakes, and all.

Those imperfections and mistakes are some of the lessons they need to learn the most from you.

I have chosen to believe this, and believing it has helped me to drop the guilt and shame that were holding me back.

My kids see me fail, apologize, and try again over and over again. I know that my kids will not be perfect. They are going to struggle with life. If they learn nothing else from me, I hope that they learn that failure is the way it goes.

Just get up, make it right, and try again.

If they always do that, they will be successful.

So I invite you to stop beating yourself up.

You are doing enough.

Believing this will set you free to create what you want in your life.

Don’t believe your brain when it tells you that you can’t make a difference, aren’t enough, and have nothing to say.

It is not true.

You are amazing just the way you are.

Don’t wait for tomorrow to believe it.

Hope you believe your way to an amazing day!

P.S. If you'd like to read more, check out this post on setting goals here.


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