I have a confession to make:
Sometimes I yell at my kids.
I used to tell myself that I was a terrible mother because of this.
Guess what that created?
Shame, loathing, and guilt.
Turns out I am much more likely to yell at my kids when I’m hanging out with shame and self loathing.
The more I told myself how terrible I was, the more I yelled.
So now I tell myself the truth: Sometimes good moms yell at their kids.
That could be true!
This thought helps me release the shame and start living from love.
I love myself for starting over when I do yell.
Loving myself when I yell means I yell WAY LESS than I used to.
We think shame is useful, but it’s not.
It doesn’t matter if you think it is true or not that good moms yell at their kids. What does it create for you when you believe that good moms don’t yell at their kids? For me it creates more yelling.
So I choose to believe the opposite. Good moms sometimes yell at their kids.
I choose to believe many other things that lead to me feeling better and therefore yelling LESS:
Kids who are yelled at are resilient.
We learn so much about apologizing, making things right, and starting over when I mess up.
I am so glad that my kids see me being imperfect and know that they aren’t supposed to be perfect either.
All I have to do is try and start over when I fail.
...These thoughts lead to peace. I stop hating myself for being imperfect. This act alone leads to me yelling less.
Try it and see…
What shame do you need to drop today?
(Trust me, shame is not useful!)
You are worthy, amazing, and enough just the way you are!
You got this!
P.S. If you want help finding good amidst difficulty, read more here.
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